Desperate to find someone?
Everyone who joins Desperate Dating agrees that they have been single
for 3 or more years and don't want to waste any more time.
Finally, a dating site that is full of people who really, really, really
want to date. Get ready for a new experience and an inbox with messages
from the moment you join. Have fun and embrace your desperation!
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3+ Years
Have you been single for 3 or more years? Our members are not into playing games, they are keen to date. They are desperate to know someone just like you. Don't spend any more of your valuable time logging in to the sites and apps that have failed you for years. Try something desperately new!
Success Stories
We want to hear your success stories with Desperate Dating and do send us a wedding invite! Be confident about your desperation to find someone and tell the world when you do. Don't follow the rules set by relationship 'experts'. Just be yourself and connect with another genuine person.
Scammer Detection
Our systems automatically look for scammers and they are flagged for the moderation team. We have a zero-tolerance approach and erase accounts every day. You can also report and block any member who you feel is not genuine. Dating sites always have undesirable accounts and we don't hide this fact away, we provocatively hunt for them and remove them to improve your overall experience.
Privacy
Desperate Dating are leaders in privacy with more tech than a nerds bedroom. Your GPS location is approximated, pictures are optional, no full date of birth, first names only, and passwords are stored in a way that would take 100s of years to decode. Oh, and a privacy policy that clearly explains what we do with the data stored and when it will be erased.
10 Reasons to choose Desperate Dating
View the short presentation on why Desperate Dating could be right for you.
#1: KEEN DATERS
Vastly reduced number of time-wasters
Dating sites can be packed full of people not serious about dating. With Desperate Dating you know other members want to date.
#2 GENUINE
Be yourself
We encourage all our members to be open and honest. If you're a needy person so what? Much better to find a match who wants the real you.
#3 SIMILAR
People just like you
Connecting with like-minded singles can make everything much simpler. Both of you have been single for a while and there is no need to make a fictitious lifestyle to impress.
#4 NO RULES
Don't play by the expert's rules
We encourage our members not to follow the endless dating rules. If you want to send 3 messages in a row then go for it. If you want to look keen then don't fake a lack of interest!
#5 PRIVACY
Share what you want
Desperate Dating is one of the most private dating sites online today. Pictures are optional and we don't ask for your date of birth, just your age. Share your details with another only when you want to.
#6 SPEED
Fast fast fast!
You have been single for more than 3 years so you don't want a slow-loading site wasting more of your time. Although we are a niche site we are faster than the major brands. They are no match for us!
#7 DESPERATE BUTTON
One press is all you need
Press the Desperate button on someones profile and alert them right away that you want to know more about them.
#8 ANYWHERE
Connect and chat with ease
Desperate dating will work on any device. Keep it private on your phone or fire up your desktop and flirt with the big screen. Who cares if anyone sees you!
#9 NO SWIPING
Quick and simple to use
Swiping . . what a convoluted method of starting a conversation. With Desperate Dating, you can just send a message. The powerful search already filters out incompatible matches.
#10 FIND THE ONE
Maybe this is your last dating site
Desperate? This could be the site that finally is the relief you're looking for. Come and open an account right now.
Good news, more singles
So you're still single, which you may not be happy about but did you know over the past decade there has been an increasing trend
in the number of singles? The UK Office for National Statistics reports that there are more single men and women by 2%. This is great news as there are more people for you to connect with.
Status
Men
Women
Single
1.9%
2.5%
Married
-1.9%
-1.4%
Civil Partnership
0.0%
0.0%
Divorced
-0.2%
0.5%
Widowed
0.2%
-1.5%
% change in relationship status over the last decade
Men (pink) and Women (Purple) by status. This shows an increase in singles for both genders over the past 10 years.
Relationship expert advice
A quick Google® for the search terms 'Desperate Dating' and you are inundated with expert advice from bloggers and relationship professionals. The vast majority of these are guides on how not to appear desperate with rules and suggestions to follow. If you have been single for what seems like an eternity you may have read content such as this and found that it still didn't help.
There is also some good general advice hidden within the search results.
At Desperate Dating, we believe you just need to be yourself and match with others who are also not interested in playing games and following dating rules.
Let's take a look at some of the advice, these are from a selection of websites on how not to appear desperate.
Being available at any time
Dating and confidence consultant, Nick Notas has an in-depth article on ''10 Mistakes that make you look desperate''. This includes:
You never want to say, “I’m free whenever, just let me know.” or “I’m open Monday, Tuesday, Friday, and the weekend.” You’re not being concrete enough and you won’t get her to commit to a specific day with you. . . If you really have all that free time, then you should work on becoming a man that women chase.
Nick Notas
Telling someone the days that you are free makes perfect sense. It would be wrong to lie just to make yourself look busy, this is an awful way to start a relationship. If you don't have a busy life then please embrace it, your date might be glad that you actually have time for them. You have already been single for far too long, so reinventing yourself as a busy person to get women to chase you isn't going to help. Relationships need time and effort, they should not be squeezed into your fake busy schedule.
Over pleasing and lies
Desperate singles are warned about over-pleasing their dates/partners. There must be millions of people in relationships desperate to be over-pleased!
Over-pleasing -- Trying to make your partner feel good in a relationship is a good thing, but overdoing it may come off as desperate. It may make your partner think that you need him or her too much.
Don't lie or embellish the truth. The truth will always prevail; embellishing your attributes to catch the attention of another is a desperate maneuver that will most certainly come back to haunt you.
Chloe Carmichael, Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist
Dr. Carmichael makes a very valid point with respect to the truth which also contradicts Nick Notas' advice about inventing a busy life. Being honest is so important and this emphasizes the key point of just being yourself.
Try something different
Hunt Ethridge, relationship expert says that at some stage you may need to try a different approach. If something isn't working then why keep trying over and over again?
Desperate means “of extreme intensity” and I can think of nothing that pushes people to the extremes more than coupling! So many people advise you to hang back and play it cool. But if you’ve tried that for so long to no avail, maybe it’s time for a change of tactics. If you have an extreme intensity to be in a relationship and find that other person that feels the same, why not try something new?
Hunt Ethridge
Don't play games or follow rules
Some people find dating and relationships complex enough and I would recommend not making it more challenging by defining a complex set of rules to follow. It's more important to be open, honest, and genuine. You want to attract
these same qualities, this is what will help you in the long term.
Founder, Desperate Dating
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